In the last post, we discussed how to avoid making decisions that will ruin your future, and it is just reasonable that we also look at how to make good decisions that will lead us to the outcomes we want in life. I have broken down the whole process into six (6) fundamental steps that can serve as a guide whenever you want to make a decision in your life. The steps are answers to questions that you must answer if you want to make good choices.
So let’s get started in answering the questions.
1. Have You Committed it to God?
Remember this scripture?: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths” (Proverbs 3:5-6 NKJV)
This is where you must begin when making a decision. You have to first of all commit it to God and ask Him to direct you and to help you make a good decision. He is the Almighty God, He knows the end of everything from the beginning. He should be consulted first before any decision or action is taken. Note: God may eventually lead you to do a different thing that is better than what you originally thought of. There is no guarantee that you will always receive an approval for what you want.
Solomon took this very step when he was anointed King and God helped him to become the wisest and the most wealthiest king Israel ever had (I Kings 3:11-12). He can do the same thing for you if you will trust and acknowledge Him in your decision-making process.
2. How Much Information do you Have, (What do you know, and what do you need to know)?
The next thing you must do to help you make a good decision is to gather information about the choices and options before you. How much information do you have, what are the facts that you know, what are the things you don’t know yet? Having good knowledge about your options and the nature of the issues before you will help you in making good logical conclusions.[Tweet “you don’t make good decisions blindly, they are usually based on good information”] This logical reasoning is often vital in making sound decisions. Remember, you don’t make good decisions blindly. You must have good information about the issues before you.
3. Have You Shared it with your Spouse or Someone More Experienced than You?
It is important to share your challenges with the important people in your life who you respect. People that you trust will be able to give you good advice. Your spouse for instance (if you’re married) is a good person to reason out your thoughts and ideas with. It is often said that “two heads are better than one”. It is important because such people often are able to see things from perspectives that you may not have considered. It is also important to have people who are more experienced than you who you trust and can go to for counsel when you need it.
Proverbs 20:18 “Every purpose is established by counsel, and with good advice make war”(KJV)
4. How Will You Manage Deviations From Your Plans and Expected Outcomes?
Things do not always go according to plan. The outcome of your decisions may not always turn out the way you had hoped or desired. Before coming to a conclusion about a choice or decision, always try to figure out what your course of action will be if things don’t go the way you plan. However, it is always worthwhile to remain resolute to your course of action if you are fully convinced about the decision you have taken. Always learn to follow your intuition, though it may be contrary to common sense most of the time. Continue to trust God and depend on Him to make happen what is best for your life.
5. Are You Afraid? Don’t be paralyzed by fear!
Your answer may most likely be yes! Isn’t it? It’s normal. Most decisions usually have some aspects of uncertainty to it, but DO NOT let fear paralyze you from taking action or moving forward.
There is a tendency to over analyze everything and be afraid to take action. Always remember that there is always some level of risk involved in any decision you take. All the previous steps only help in reducing that risk, it does not eliminate it completely. That is why your trust in God must be very strong as you depend on Him to help you make the right choices. In most situations, you later discover that what you are afraid of was just an illusion. So don’t let it hold you back.[Tweet “What you’re afraid of may just be an illusion”]
6. Never be in a Hurry
Never be in a hurry to make a decision and never let anybody pressurize you into making a decision. You must always take some reasonable time to evaluate and think about your options before committing to any action. Sales people often want to create a sense of urgency and scarcity to compel people to buy stuff you don’t even need. An old preacher with a lot of experience advised young people of this generation to always wait for three (3) days whenever the urge to buy something comes upon them. Very often, that urge goes away by the third day and you are able to reason to yourself more rationally.
What other step do you think is important in making good decisions? Leave your comments below.