It is common to see people who are bitter, unforgiving, resentful and even depressed because of the unfair treatments they received. You may be going through very difficult and unpleasant situations not because you were careless but because someone else took actions (or inactions) that are affecting you negatively now. If you have experienced anything like this, I want you to know that you are not alone, and you can overcome this situation and live an amazing life of joy and fulfilment (John 10:10). That is the promise of God concerning you. So how can you make this change happen in your life?
The World is an Unfair Place
All around us exist stories of injustice, pain, betrayal and hurt. Many people can link their present state of being to decisions made by others on their behalf, or things done to them by others they looked up to. Imagine the little children undergoing sexual abuse by people they trust to take care of them or the marginalized worker who isn’t promoted because of gender, race, or religion. It is fair to say that the victims of such abuse have the right to blame these people for the hurt they inflicted on them; it is even fair to say that every victim of abuse or neglect whose life didn’t turn out right can blame their present state of failure on their abusers.
But the issue isn’t about what is fair, it’s about what should be. There are a lot of people who have gone to their graves bitter, unfulfilled, and underutilized because they decided to remain in the place of blame making. The decision to forget the past and look to a brighter future does not in any way absolve the perpetrators of their wrong doing, instead, it gives anyone who is willing to live life to the fullest the opportunity of doing so.
Understand the Cause of your Pain
The ills of this world make us ask questions and many of these questions are targeted at God’s existence as it relates to the evil that abounds. One question we have failed to ask is how we came to where we are right now. The story is told of Noah’s son who looked upon his father’s nakedness and incurred on himself a curse that not only affected him but his generations yet unborn; they would be servants to their brothers (Genesis 9: 24-25).
How much of our present state is the result of those who went before us? There have been a lot of atrocities done to groups of people all around the world and most of the attempts to bring about justice, equality and fairness have failed. Knowing the cause of your present circumstances is the first step toward freedom. Have you been hurt, abused, betrayed, sold into slavery? Ignoring that these things happened does not help, acknowledging them is indeed the first step to a brand-new life.
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Change Your Destiny
So, you have acknowledged the cause of your present state, what then? Resolve to turn things around. Jabez was a man whose mother’s pain led to him being called by a bad name (Jabez means pain). But he cried out to God for a change in his affairs and God answered him, making him better and more honorable than his peers (I Chronicles 4: 10). Jabez could have chosen to remain bitter, blaming his misfortune on his mother’s decision to name him after her pain, but he didn’t. He chose the better option and sought the face of God, who is the only one who can truly change our destiny.
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I know there are people out there who had terrible pasts but are seemingly doing great things without God in their lives, but the truth is that God alone heals us of the pain, transforms our heart so we can not only let go, but also forgive those who wronged us, and gives us a brand new start.
I want to invite you to accept Jesus into your life so that you can experience a new beginning. It’s simple, please say the prayer below and mean it from your heart:
Dear Lord Jesus, I know that I am a sinner and need Your forgiveness. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and rose from the grave to give me life. I know You are the only way to God. So now I want to quit disobeying You and start living for You. Please forgive me, change my life and show me how to know You. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
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